纳瓦尔经典的“44 条关于人生游戏的残酷真相”三小时访谈的第三十五部分：人生的按个重要决定。
纳瓦尔·拉维坎特：（接上决策原则）我会把做决定的重心，放在真正重要的三件事上。因为人生所有其他事，都是这三个选择的后续结果，年轻时尤其如此。到了人生后期，你要去优化的事会不一样，但年轻时，要搞清楚的重要的三件事是——和谁在一起，做什么事，住在哪里。
NAVAL RAVIKANT: I would focus decision making down on the three things that really matter, because everything else is downstream of these three decisions, especially early in life. Later in life you have different things to optimize for, but early in life you’re trying to figure out who you’re with, what you’re doing, and where you live.
我觉得这三件事，都得好好琢磨，很多人做这些选择时都很随性。就说和谁在一起吧，常有的情况就是：“我们在一起处着，日子就这么过下来了，感觉还凑合，在一起也够久了，那就结婚吧。”
I think on all three of those, you want to think pretty hard about it. People do some of these unconsciously. With who you’re with, very often it’s like, “We were in a relationship, we stumbled along, it felt okay, it had been enough time, so we got married.”
克里斯·威廉姆森：这可不是很棒的理由。
CHRIS WILLIAMSON: Not great reasons.
纳瓦尔·拉维坎特：但或许也算不上糟糕。有些人对这些事想得太多，反而也选不对答案。但如果你是那种不愿将就、不接受次等结果的人，那可以在一个明确的期限里去尝试、去磨合，别一直耗着，时间到了就做决定。
NAVAL RAVIKANT: Maybe not terrible reasons either. People who overthink these things sometimes don’t get the right answer, but maybe here, if you’re the kind of person that’s not going to settle for second best, you iterate on a closed timeframe, so you don’t run out the clock, and then you decide.
对于做什么事，你要多去尝试不同的方向，直到找到那件于你而言像玩一样轻松，在别人看来却堪比工作的事。做这件事，你会得心应手、不惧失败，接着找到这件事的杠杆点，再摸索出它的实际应用场景，然后一头扎进去就好。
On what you do, you try a whole bunch of different things until you find the one that feels like play to you, looks like work to others, you can’t lose at it, get some leverage, try to find some practical application of it and go into that.
还有住在哪里，这件事也非常重要，我觉得人们对它的重视程度远远不够。大家选一座城市往往很随意：可能是因为在这念的书，可能是家人恰巧在这，可能是朋友在这，也可能只是某个周末来玩了一趟，觉得挺喜欢就定了。
And then where you live is really important. I don’t think people spend enough time on that one. People pick cities randomly based on where they went to school, or where their family happened to be, or where their friend was, or they visited one weekend and really liked it.
这件事一定要深思熟虑，因为你居住的地方，会实实在在地限制你的可能性，也会定义你能拥有的机会。它会决定你的朋友圈、你的择偶范围、你的工作机会，决定你能吃到的食物、呼吸的空气、饮用的水质，还会决定你和家人的距离 —— 这点在你年纪渐长、有了孩子之后，会变得格外重要。这是一个无比重要的决定。
You really want to think it through, because where you live really constrains and defines your opportunities. It’s going to determine your friend circle, your dating pool, your job opportunities, the food and air and water quality that you receive, your proximity to your family, which might be important as you get older and have kids. Very, very important decision.
气候、生活质量、你待在室内和户外的时间，甚至你的寿命长短，都和居住地息息相关。我觉得人们在这件事上的选择，比前两件要草率得多，花的心思也少太多了。
Weather, quality of life, how much you stay inside or outside, how long you’ll live based on that—I think people choose that one probably more poorly than the other two. They put a lot less thought into that one.
克里斯·威廉姆森：某种程度上确实是这样。而且你说得太对了，太多人稀里糊涂就谈了恋爱，不知不觉就走到了这一步：“我们同居了，养了狗，生了孩子，然后就结婚了。”
CHRIS WILLIAMSON: In some ways, yeah, but also you’re so right, how many people fall backward into a relationship and before they know it, “We’re living together, we got a dog, we got a kid, we’re married.”
纳瓦尔·拉维坎特：是啊，一旦有了孩子，这个小生命身上流着你和对方各一半的血，你就再也无法和这个人彻底割裂了。所以只要和一个人有了孩子，不管你还喜不喜欢对方，这个人身上的一半，都会成为你这辈子最在乎的牵绊。
NAVAL RAVIKANT: Yeah, and then when you have kids, because that’s half of you and half of them running around, you’re never going to separate yourself from that. So once you have a child with somebody, then the most important thing in the world to you is half that other person, whether you like them or not.
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